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The Light of Day

March 18, 2009

Monday evening found The Husband and I discussing his scholarship and forms that need to be signed by the local ROTC detachment… that aren’t being signed.  It seems we have a bill from the university that we were unaware of until the Orderly Room called to inform us.  The Husband does not qualify for in-state tuition at this lovely establishment.  Since he was an active duty E-6 before accepting this scholarship and will return to active duty after he finishes his degree… the previous Colonel signed the out-of-state tuition waiver.  The new Colonel will not.  Our scholarship does not cover the out-of-state tuition costs.  Which means… we’re sort of in jeopardy of loosing the scholarship.  Oh… and let’s not forget about that lovely bill we owe the university.

We’ve gone through so much to get to this point.  I’ll spare you the details, but understand that this has been a long and hard road.  To feel like we could watch this all slip through our fingers because of a technicality is a little too much to bear at this point.  To go back now would mean he would go back enlisted and have to change his career.  The 3.8 GPA he’s worked so hard to maintain as an engineering student would be worthless.  We’d leave without the degree… without the dream of doing something bigger in the Air Force.

I have to put my trust and faith in God at times like this.  I have to stop.  Wait for the storm to pass and soldier on.  The hardest part about any of this is that the people here don’t care about The Husband’s career, the awards and medals he’s received for exemplary service.  They don’t care that he’s here completing his degree and commissioning because he wants to make a difference in the future of the Air Force.   This isn’t a “job” to him… it’s his life.  It’s our life.  

Right now we’re in the process of appealing The Husband’s residency.  Looking at all of the information makes me sceptical that this will work.  The only thing he has going for him is that he relies on my income… that happens to be from this state.  The board will meet April 8th to determine residency.  In the meantime, I’m not sitting still.  

This weekend will bring a lovely FAFSA to my desk where we will apply for student aid, grants and loans.  The Husband is so discouraged right now he’s about to throw in the towel.  We came here debt free and planned on leaving debt free.  Best laid plans don’t always work out though.  I happen to think he’s worth all the debt in the world.  His dreams… they are attainable, within reach.  He can do anything.  I’m just proud to be by his side.

5 Comments leave one →
  1. March 18, 2009 11:36

    Oh Cat, the military always doesn’t seem to get it. What the hell is wrong with this new commander?
    You two have come this far so bite the bullet if you have to and get the loans. I know he knows it is so much better to be an officer than just unlisted. It would be so much better for both of you.
    Maybe you need to talk to some political big wig from your area. Find out how your US Congressmen fell about the military, and if they are favorable to the military, write them a letter. At this point, use any available source available as you having nothing to lose by trying.

    Also try to chin up as your depressed husband needs you now.

  2. March 18, 2009 14:00

    Bang on every door you can, Cat. Don’t give up.
    Worse comes to worse – get the loans and deal with the debt, but I would chase down every avenue to get his tuition covered.
    My daughter is in university and they do not make it (finances and bureaucracy) easy even in the best of times. It is the worst part of trying to get an education.

  3. March 18, 2009 15:28

    First of all, debt that is an investment in yourself and your dreams isn’t bad debt.

    Second, the residency issue. Gather as much documentation as you can of his life as a resident there–bills with his name and your current address, checks, driver’s license, library card, house documents, etc. Plus, if you have a copy of the previous out-of-state tuition waiver, that can’t hurt. And, you have your own paycheck stubs.

    Best of luck with the residency hearing! No matter what the outcome, you guys still control whether you’re going to act out of fear or faith.

  4. March 19, 2009 04:44

    Good luck Cat – I guess you have to trust that it will work out. Hope it all sorts itself out before you have too many more sleepless nights.


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